So often, we define ourselves by the things around us. We want to find our identity in our jobs, our talents, our hobbies, our relationships. But then if we fail in any of those things, we identify ourselves by that failure. So how are we supposed to find out who we truly are?
Recently on The Joe Sikorra Show, Joe discussed how negativity and dysfunction from our past can cause us to have a negative sense of self-worth. But he also offered advice on how we can overcome that to find our true worth and identity. Joe said:
“If you were repeatedly told you’re stupid, you’re incompetent, you’re worthless, or you were treated as though you were useless, your needs weren’t being met. In all of that dysfunction, you can form beliefs about yourself. You can carry them into your adult relationships and life, and carry that sense of oppression and depression that says, ‘I’m no good.’
But here is the great news: your faith can help to set you free, so that you can actually live and thrive in the truth. But the first thing you have to do is recognize this voice that you have internalized, and be willing to hold it up and believe it could be a lie. And instead allow God to tell you who you are.
One of the most beautiful examples we have of this is from Scripture, when Jesus asks Peter the question: ‘Who do people say that I am?’ And Peter responds, ‘Some say you’re John the Baptist, others Elijah or one of the prophets.’ But Jesus asks him, ‘Peter, who do you say that I am?’
And Peter says that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of the Living God. And Jesus looks back at Peter and tells him that He will now tell Peter who he is. Who he really is.
‘Peter, you are a rock. And on this rock I will build my Church.’ Now, is Peter acting like a rock? Not really. Peter was Peter, a deeply flawed man. He had passion and love (in fact he died for his faith) but he wasn’t a rock at the time. He became the rock.
The whole point is that he allowed God to define him. He allowed God to say, ‘This is who you are.’ And Peter grew into that. Not by magic, but he allowed God to heal him, to make him whole and holy. And God wants to do the same thing with you.
Do you believe you’re a bad person? No matter what you do, you make a mistake, you fall down, you sin, and you say to yourself, ‘Why am I so bad?’ Maybe you don’t say that to other people, but you say it to yourself. And that’s perhaps the most damaging of all.
You’re flawed. You’re a sinner. Welcome to the club. But God doesn’t look at you and say, ‘You’re bad, you’re no good, be gone!’ God looks at you and says, ‘Let me heal you. Let me bathe you, let me wash you, let me tell you who you are.’ And, in part, what God says to you is that you are his most magnificent creation. And He says that because He made you in His image.”
Listen to the full reflection below:
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