The Art of Forgiveness

give-forgivenessLet all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, with all malice, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. – Ephesians 4:31-32

Forgiveness can be tricky. As Phil Sandoval mentioned on his show today, there are many internal and external components of forgiveness and suffering, and it is often difficult to let go of the resentment that accompanies a deep wound.

During his show, Phil mentioned an article by the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation that referred to forgiveness as the art of releasing resentment. The article makes some great points about the art of forgiveness such as:

  1. Forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgetting the history of our own lives or the world risks having those injustices repeated and forming a cycle of abuse.
  2. Authentic forgiveness takes time.
  3. Our ability to forgive cannot depend on the reactions or actions of another.
  4. Understanding that we are more than our transgressions can help us see past the transgressions of others.
  5. It is important to determine what role you or other factors may have played in a situation. Seeing a situation from another’s perspective can help to build healthier relationships.
  6. Forgiveness frees us of the burden of resentment. Resentment weighs us down and keeps us from living a full and joyful life.
  7. True forgiveness takes hard work and contemplation. It is practiced one day at a time, and one experience at a time.

The final word from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation:

Healthy forgiveness is not the simple, hasty “I’m sorry” that we were taught to say whenever our parents demanded that response. Real forgiveness is hard and contemplative work that we practice one day at a time, one experience at a time. It is a path to healing and serenity that begins and ends with compassion for ourselves and our feelings. Perhaps rather than “forgive and forget,” our new adage should become “forgive and live.”

Listen to The Phil Sandoval Show and read the article for more on the topic of forgiveness.


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Patrick Madrid Show caller details ISIS kidnapping of family members

Loomis, CA (February 26, 2015) — Listeners to Immaculate Heart Radio’s The Patrick Madrid Show heard first hand details of the latest ISIS abduction of Assyrian Christians this morning, when an Arizona listener, of Assyrian descent, and a direct relative of four abducted Assyrian Christians, called the show. The caller, who is a protected source of Immaculate Heart Radio, shared details of the kidnapping of four family members who are among the estimated 220 Assyrian Christians taken hostage by Islamic radicals in Syria this week.

The family members include the source’s cousin and his wife; their 12 year-old son, 9 year-old daughter, and grandfather, a U.S. citizen who has been in Syria for two years, helping the family with immigration. The source said the abduction took place in the early morning hours yesterday, Wednesday, February 25 when the family was awakened by shouts from ISIS soldiers dressed in black, brandishing guns. When other concerned family members tried to call the cellphones of the abducted family members, the calls were answered by ISIS members who told them, “Don’t even try to call this number.” [Other reports have stated that ISIS members have answered cell phones of their captives to tell callers they will send the head of their relative.]

“What saddens me most,” said the source “is that I don’t see anyone else standing up for Christians in the Middle East. Where are the good Samaritans?”

The unplanned call was a surprise to Madrid, host of the live show heard weekdays from 6 a.m. – 9 a.m. (Pacific) on Immaculate Heart Radio which broadcasts throughout the western United States on 33 stations with an estimated footprint of 50 million. Madrid handled it with his usual aplomb and grace extending sincere concern and promising prayers for the family. He also brought attention to Pope Francis’ support for Christians in Iraq and Syria and his statements that violence against these minorities must be condemned.

“American is desensitized to the trauma in the world,” said Madrid. “Part of finding a voice to combat evil involves identifying the real problems that exist. We have to name problems before we can make them go away. People have to take that roll. When we can name it we can shame it.”

The call lasted 45 minutes and included questions to the source from other callers. Full audio of the show can be heard below

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Homeless man given funeral and burial at the Vatican

teutonic cemeteryFrom the Catholic Herald:

A homeless man who used to urge pilgrims to go to Confession and pray daily has been buried at a Vatican cemetery.

Willy Herteller, who was Flemish, died in December at the age of 80 and his body had been left unclaimed at a local morgue.

But a Vatican official – Mgr. Americo Ciani, of the Roman Rota – upon discovering his death arranged a burial for him alongside illustrious Germans at the Teutonic Cemetery, just behind St. Peter’s Basilica.

Fr. Bruno Silvestrini, the parish priest at the church of St Anna, told Vatican Radio that Mr. Herteller had attended the 7am Mass for 25 years.

Fr. Silvestrini said: “He was very, very open and had made many friends. He spoke a lot with young people, he spoke to them of the Lord, he spoke of the Pope, he would invite them to the celebration of the Eucharist. He was a rich person of great faith. … Then we no longer saw him, and subsequently we heard about his death. I’ve never seen so many people knocking on my door to ask when the funeral was, how they could help to keep his memory alive,” he said.

Read the full story at The Catholic Herald and Catholic News Service.

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